How I see BDSM and a bit about Me

It has been a while now that I was thinking to add a new article about the way I see BDSM as also include a few things about myself. It is more a collection of different thoughts that I feel the need to share and usually this blog is my way to do it since 2013. BDSM after all is not a subject we can easily and openly discuss with everyone in our vanilla life and our daily social circles. So what is really BDSM and why do I find it so important for my sexual life? Is it only sex or more? Continue reading “How I see BDSM and a bit about Me”

Submissive or Girlfriend?

I believe the answer in this question is mostly personal interpretation and not a subject of some rule or “lifestyle must”. However I do believe there is a great misunderstanding which I would like to explain. Apparently my approach is based on my personal preference which can be simply described by submissive girlfriend.  Continue reading “Submissive or Girlfriend?”

Sexual BDSM, Pain, Bondage and Lust.

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If you are visiting my blog for first time you might be surprised reading the title sexual BDSM and asking your self if there is anything else than that. As my readers know, I trully distinguish sexual BDSM for the BDSM as a daily lifestyle that guides the way we build a relationship with our partner. Maybe this is the first ever time that I will talk only for the sexual BDSM that I really love and to be honest it is from where I started my journey in the lifestyle to end up be a complete lifestyler in every aspect. From the definition of the word BDSM, the sexual side might be bondage & discipline, sadomasochism (I do not speak of domination and submission as this is happening in any situation) or a combination of all these. Kinks? Continue reading “Sexual BDSM, Pain, Bondage and Lust.”

Pain? Yes but no bruises nor permanent marks. Respect her body and her gift, don’t be a savage.

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I was thinking about this as I was searching some BDSM related articles over the internet. Actually I was seeking to find something about spanking and naturally I got over some pictures or videos from the porn industry that made me think I should talk about this with a new article. You see, in some (or many) porn movies they seem to go a lot over the line and make it look that a sadist is the person who abuses his submissive or slave. There is a joke though that actually defines in a funny yet perfect way who or what a sadist is. According to that joke a masochist goes to a sadist and and start yelling or some times begging “hurt me, bite me, cut my body in pieces, burn me, humiliate me, abuse and use my body in any possible way that will give me pain, degrade me”. The sadist Continue reading “Pain? Yes but no bruises nor permanent marks. Respect her body and her gift, don’t be a savage.”

Subspace and Domspace. What are they, do they exist and if yes how you get there?

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I found out that some or many of you does not really know about the so called subspace and even more the Domspace. You don’t know what is it about, if it really exists (that’s a big discussion) and how to get there. Today I decided to talk about these two that actually it is the same, it is a status, a mental status probably that a sub or a Dom my enter during a scene. The subspace you might also find it as flying or floating and is more psychological state of the submissive (same goes for the Dom and most of the things I will write apply to a Master as well therefore I will only mention the subspace). Before I give any scientific explanation or personal anticipation, I would like to explain it in simple words. It is a state the sub enters and she is actually in a dream world where all that happens in reality are anticipated in a different way depending on her own desires.  Continue reading “Subspace and Domspace. What are they, do they exist and if yes how you get there?”