Always attracted to the women who reflect my deepest vision of myself

“A man’s sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions…. He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer–because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement.” ~ Ayn Rand

BDSM Dating

It is a long time now that I believe BDSM dating community is a real failure. Mostly attracts exhibitionists and those who seek an easy fuck, nothing more. On top of that Fet fails to meet any expectation one might have to meet a match. I seriously thinking launching my own BDSM dating website with many features and mostly focused on a way to secure a real dating service. What you think about it?

The importance of Safewords

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After long time I am back with a  new update. This time I decided to speak about safewords and how important they are during a scene. It is quite a few time I heard people debating about it and those kinds of debates quickly degenerate into how much they “trust” or “love” their partner. There’s no link between safewords and trust or love. If you trust your partner, then hopefully you will never NEED your safeword, but trust doesn’t prevent accidents or unexpected physical or mental events happening. On the other side, as a Master, if you truly love and care for your submissive you know to respect her limits therefore you need a safeword just to make sure things will never go south for her. It’s really not about the level of power exchange, it’s a tool of communication.

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What is a petgirl in the BDSM world

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One of the subjects i will talk about more extensively in the second edition of my eBook is the subject of petgirls. My favorite roleplay in BDSM. To those outside the lifestyle as also to some within it, petplay might look degrading and humikiating. For us who are into petplay is quite the opposite and something that catches all the beauty of our imagination. Continue reading

eBook published

I am happy to announce that my eBook is under review on Amazon and hopefully within the next 12 hours will be available to purchase. Some related information:

The eBook is my first edition and I am already working in my mind how to improve it with the second one. All of my blog readers who will purchase the first edition will have a 50% discount to all my future ones (I will provide you will information on how that will work within the next days). Most of the material is taken from the blog as It would have take me a huge amount of time to add all the unpublished material in the first addition. It’s quite a hard job to publish a book as I found out.

For the next edition I am already writing new chapters unpublished online and I am seeking some people to contribute with any kind of literature and art. Ideally the next edition will be huge and after each of my chapter there will be added a piece of literature aligned with the subject and some art. Anyone who wish to contribute may contact me through my blog.

The next step will be my own website connected to this blog. I believe it will be ready before the end of the year maybe a lot faster.

Lies have no place in the BDSM lifestyle

“People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked…The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on…There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction, and a white lie is the blackest of all.”
― Ayn Rand

BDSM Love

Though many believe the opposite I still believe there can’t be BDSM without love. Without it is only a kinky sexual play scene and nothing more. When love steps in everything is changing.

With love we forge a strong and unusual bond between ourself and our partner. We start to develop instincts that eventually break down selfishness and individuality. If you haven’t had such experience then you need to live it to completely understand me.

By searching a submissive’s dark corners of her brain it is inevitable to expose yours as well at some point. It is a moment when the concept of privacy is left behind and that is a moment to celebrate. Without it there can be no secrets between the lovers.

As a Master I want no privacy when it comes to my sweet girl. She has to know everything same as I expect from her side. We are one, a single soul, heart, brain and spirit split in two different bodies. We feel the same, we think the same, we experience love and life in the same way.

All because of love in BDSM