BDSM – A so Different lifestyke that is not that Different after all

You might find surprising the title of that article because I am quite sure most of you consider BDSM a lifestyle very different from the vanilla. I will explain here my own belief that in fact this lifestyle is not that different from the usual one and in fact is a lot more demanding. Indeed it is a lot more demanding in dedication, honesty, devotion, openness and companionship. However we need to see our world from the vanilla perspective and mostly if one who knows nothing try to research it over the web. What is the impression they will get? Let us take it step by step from here Continue reading “BDSM – A so Different lifestyke that is not that Different after all”

BDSM – The thin line between Consent and Abuse

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Many times I spoke to people about the need everything to be within the limits of SSC. Same goes for the need of a safe word that EVERY Dom need to honor and respect. Both are important to keep everything within limits and avoid to cross the line of abuse in our relationship. RELATIONSHIP. That is the third element we need to keep everything away from abuse. A relationship means that two people spend time together, learn each other inside out, trust and care for each other. Do not take it lightly and don’t think it is easy to have a “one night stand” within BDSM. If you do, it is easy to find your self into very unpleasant situations. Continue reading “BDSM – The thin line between Consent and Abuse”

A Master sharing some thoughts.

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I don’t really know what this article will be about and/or how good or bad might appear. I just want to write something without knowing what about. So, I start typing and allow the letters reveal where this article will lead. Recently I had a conversation with a woman sharing with me the fact that she had a bad sexual life, so bad that she never had an orgasm. She is not the first telling me something like that. I heard a lot of women saying that and it makes me wonder what men are doing out there. It is so easy to understand that the more you care about your partners satisfaction the more you will receive in return. Can’t they really get it or is it possible that some (or many) people find sexual activities as something boring that if they could they would happily delete from their life?  Continue reading “A Master sharing some thoughts.”

Deadly mistake a Master might do

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Yes you are a Master or a Dom and you always correct your sub when she makes a mistake. Who will correct you though when you make a mistake? Have you ever thought that some  mistakes from your side might be deadly? We need to be very careful as there are mistakes that can ruin our relationship or mess up our sub both psychologically and emotionally. Even worst, some of these mistakes might hurt or traumatize your girl in unspeakable ways let alone damaging her body permanently. Remember you deal with a human not a toy nor an object.  Continue reading “Deadly mistake a Master might do”

Master vs Dom, explaining the main difference of the two types of Toppers in BDSM

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Checking around different posts on the BDSMfriendBOOK I stumbled upon a post to a link for the differences between a Master and a Dom making me realize I never wrote here about it. I did a brief research and I have to admit I am surprised how much wrong information are out there to the extend that in some cases I found explanations like a Dom is not someone with BDSM traits!!!! So let’s see what really a Dom is and what a Master from my point of view.  Continue reading “Master vs Dom, explaining the main difference of the two types of Toppers in BDSM”

Some advises to any fellow Dom/Master. Rules for a Master / Dom

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It is a good thing to remember the basics and we all at times need one to remind us from where we started. You see the path we take in life, the journey we take in this world some times feels really small and other times really long but nevertheless during that time we might forget who we was, where we start from and mostly, the one thing that motivates us. Continue reading “Some advises to any fellow Dom/Master. Rules for a Master / Dom”