Not part of the community

This is possibly my last post as I don’t think I will keep updating this blog anymore and to be fair the past year (couple of years) I am not keeping up with updates that well. I might post an article now and then however I don’t see the reason to claim this blog is active anymore. In the same way I can’t consider myself part of the BDSM community anymore. Not that I turned vanilla or that with a magical way my fetishes and kinks are not there anymore. Quite the opposite but the way the community develops can’t make me say I am one of them.  Continue reading “Not part of the community”

Does a Dominant grows more dominative?

Recently I’ve been involved in a discussion coming from a submissive questioning if she should expect a Dom to become more dominative when their relationship becomes stronger or it makes more sense he will get softer. It is indeed a valid question and I find the topic really interesting so I thought to post an article  Continue reading “Does a Dominant grows more dominative?”

The submissive way

Recently I had a chat with a friend who is a submissive talking about her thoughts regarding a Dom who most likely is shy or at least appears as one. During our chat she stated that she will go for him and make the first move if she has to but questioned if this is truly the submissive way. Now I think this is a very interesting concept to help us understand better the lifestyle  Continue reading “The submissive way”

Humiliation is Respect

Humiliation is strong within BDSM and many times misunderstood from many depending on their level of knowledge regarding the lifestyle and personal experiences. I am not planning to take it to a social or psychological level but keep it as simple as possible in order to help more people understand my point. It is my strong belief we need to explain things in a simple way as this can help more and more people even if they Continue reading “Humiliation is Respect”

Knowledge is Key to play Safe

Being into BDSM there are plenty of different “plays” that you might like to get involved with. As I say the lifestyle can be mental, physical or both so whatever you like to get involved with there is a big requirement of knowledge in order to play safe. Doing the x what impact has to your partners body and the z what impact is going to have to their mental-emotional status? So let us check a “map”  Continue reading “Knowledge is Key to play Safe”

Keep calm and walk her

For my regular readers this post’s title is quite straight forward. For those who read me first time it might sound puzzling if you are not into petplay. I am really fond of petplay and mostly into puppy play. I love to see my sub as my pet, with a collar, a leash and even a nice tail though I am not into furries.  There is a strange way this works inside me and actually it is in a very contradicting way which I will explain below. Continue reading “Keep calm and walk her”

BDSM – A so Different lifestyke that is not that Different after all

You might find surprising the title of that article because I am quite sure most of you consider BDSM a lifestyle very different from the vanilla. I will explain here my own belief that in fact this lifestyle is not that different from the usual one and in fact is a lot more demanding. Indeed it is a lot more demanding in dedication, honesty, devotion, openness and companionship. However we need to see our world from the vanilla perspective and mostly if one who knows nothing try to research it over the web. What is the impression they will get? Let us take it step by step from here Continue reading “BDSM – A so Different lifestyke that is not that Different after all”