bdsm training

I find quite to often some people to consider the concept of training as something that apply only to new sub or slaves. That is totally wrong and we may train even the more experienced slave. The meaning of training in such case is more like the vanilla “get to know” each other and for sure, it is something that works both ways. During the training, the sub get the opportunity to learn the likes and dislikes of her Dom. His desires and his wishes. Training is a time period during which the sub will have the time to learn as much as possible regarding her Master therefore honesty and be open is important to help her achieve that knowledge. BUT, the same time the Master need to “train” himself regarding his sub. Her limits, her desires, her everything. He needs to learn all the information that will help Him lead the relationship, to stand up for the title Master.

Many seem to forget that, they seem to forget that training is a very different concept in the BDSM lifestyle than the vanilla meaning of the word. Even worst, some consider they have nothing to train into therefore they are getting closer to what I hate most, a God syndrome. BDSM training same as everything within the lifestyle is depended to honesty. The more open and honest you are the more succesful the BDSM training session will be. As I say and believe, there are no secrets or advises to be given on the ways to train a sub. Why? Because as I explained before BDSM training means to learn how the two partners like to live and experience the lifestyle and you have to understand that there are as many ways to live this lifestyle as there are people living it. And also you need to understand that actually every trail period (or consideration period) is actually deep down a BDSM training period or at least it includes elements of training.

I will not deny there are some things that are common for every type of BDSM training. There are common methods we may follow to complete the training period and figure out how the dynamics between the two partners. A new trend that slowly appears on the internet are some so-called BDSM schools that promising effective training and other big words. Maybe they do, I have no personal experience of their services and I can not be definite in my opinion but I do not believe they aim to anything else than the profit and the ignorance that is out there regarding the BDSM lifestyle. They promise a lot and I have admit it might be a very good business opportunity as the lifestyle will expand more therefore more and more ignorants will join it and will seek to find advice. Before you train anyone, train your self. Learn and read as much as possible. Read not only related to the BDSM lifestyle material, but also anything that eventually might be used within it. Keeping that in mind you are going to realise that actually no one ever can  claim total knowledge about BDSM. BDSM training is a very personal matter and you may not wait other to come to you as teachers. Of course, some things to learn how to use them you might need advice but on the other hand, is not rocket science.

Last but not least many, influenced by the porn industry, see the BDSM training as a sexual activity. Training is not to apply nipple clamps on your sub. BDSM training is to apply the clamps and the same time place her in the mental side of why this is happening and what is the meaning of it. What do you expect her to learn. If it is just to achieve not to shake her breasts then that I will not call it BDSM training but only sexual game training. So if you want real BDSM training, learn your self, understand what you seek and what you need, read and educate your self for many different things then try to find one who is into the same, has the same likes or has the potential to be compatible with you and start working on it. That is all you need to do, with honesty and trust.

4 thoughts on “BDSM Training

  1. question: if it is not sexual what other purpose is there to stick clamps on the nipples? What else will I achieve in my “training” of my slave by doing this? This seems to be where all writers leave off on their blogs…
    –Master Pigany

    1. Hello and thank you for your comment. Yes, if she is a pain slut, a masochist that will lead to sexual play though you can always use denial. The reason is to teach her something. Pain is a learning process we go through during all stages of our life. Denial as well. You can use pain to a non masochist with obvious ways but also to a masochist followed by sexual denials. Do you feel this answer your question? Its a hey interesting subject indeed

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