Recently I received a new email from a submissive asking my advice on some issues and one of them was regarding pet play. It appears as more and more people becoming fond of the pet play BDSM therefore I have decide to talk a little about it, as my guess is that many are not really aware of what a pet girl really is. Even worst, they are not really aware of the fire they are dealing with and how should they keep the scene strictly as a casual play and nothing more. As I have explained in one of my early posts here, there are different levels (types) of submission and one of them is the pet. I know and I realize that most people out there who have a genuine interest in pet play does not really mean pet as a level of submission but only as a temporary status of their partner. Nevertheless it might be useful (mostly to submissives) the knowledge of what a pet slave is and actually what are the dangers in any dehumanization activities. Yes, pet play is part of a bigger group of “kink” that is called dehumanization and is as shocking as it sounds.
As you can guess from the way it is called, and to put it in simple words, dehumanization BDSM is a practice according to which a person is trying to make another person feel less human or non-human. Even in the vanilla world is well know the pony play as it was portrayed in the porn industry quite a few times. Actually most of the times I see a vanilla making word of pony girls, it is followed by a rather embarrassed laugh indicating a guilt that might originates by some secret desire or knowing they actually likes what they saw. What you can actually find on wiki is the following “dehumanization (pony or animal play) or objectification (forniphilia, becoming an ‘inanimate object’ such as a foot stool)” and I would say here that objectification is also part of the bigger group of dehumanization (I have some examples in the following picture gallery).
At this point I would like to explain something that happen to be very commonly misunderstood. It is not a collar that indicates a submissive as a pet. Outside the BDSM community many people associate collars with pets and they believe that a collar is humiliating or the way to dehumanize a submissive. The truth is that a collar in BDSM has a symbolic value completely different indicating commitment, dedication and ownership. I would dare say it is the wedding ring of our community and that because as an idea they both have the same symbolism.
With the help of the porn industry more and more people get to identify the pet play submission as an activity during which the bottom will have a collar her/his neck and a leash but it is not just that! A pet submissive for as long as she is into this role has no human identity but only the one of the animal she pretends to be. She has to stop thinking in a human way, act in a human way and turn her self into an animal that follows her Master orders and that means the scene might never turn to be sexual at all. Same goes with objectification, when the submissive is just an object and nothing more than that. Of course sexual play might come into the scene during which the submissive has no will at all, or even if she has, there is not way to express it clearly (pet) or not at all (object).
The danger of such play is that mentally a submissive might go very deep inside it and after some point find hard to get back to her real personality. Are you surprised? Don’t be. Human behavior is a combination of patterns, habits and limits (A psychologist would explain that a lot better as also the language barrier here might be difficult for me to over come). From our early years we are “trained” to behave in the way that is commonly accepted as proper by the society in general. We learn to avoid doing things in public that we would love (or need?) to do just because we know that socially are not accepted therefore they are wrong. In the same way a person may start acting in different ways in case they are placed in a different environment. I would suggest to all of you, to watch a movie called the pet, a b rated movie that is based on a true story (and is not the only true story related to dehumanization). Many say (as I do) “One of the major factors in successfully training and keeping a slave is to be consistent in everything you do, say and act”. Why? Because this is the way that will help your submissive/slave grow the patterns and habits that will turn her behavior to what you anticipate as accepted and proper according to your desires.
Cute or sexy?
I do not believe that anyone really dreams to dehumanize his/her partner to such level of course but on the other hand the knowledge of what we are dealing with can’t harm anyone. Remember one thing, the more we repeat something, the deeper we get inside that forming a pattern of behavior. Pet play is sexy (even objectification some times), but you need to learn how to deal with it, how to bring your submissive back to her human side and how to remind her whatever she does is only a temporary scene that even if she loves it, she may not go deeper into it. If my words surprise you then you have never met a submissive who really loved to be a pet and treated as such. If you are a submissive you might have feel such a strong desire even if you have never dared to admit it. In any case, a pet girl is something very cute and sexy but the same time dangerous and hot. To answer the question that I place as subject of this post, pet play is a casual temporary game in comparison to a pet slave that is a constant (or less temporary) status of a slave girl.