I was just checking the share stats of my blog and I found very interesting that the articles with the more shares on social platforms are those who are into the training ideas page. That makes me wonder, is it actually the most interesting topic for regarding the lifestyle? If yes, then what is it more important to read? How to train a slave/submissive or how to be trained as a Master/Dom – slave/sub?

 

9 thoughts on “Training and BDSM

  1. As a Dominant that has been given all sorts of advice on how and what type of Dom to be. I feel its important that we be taught the right way to love and cherish our subs/slaves as there is so many so called wannabes out there that ruin submissives and slaves and this in turn gives those of us trying our best to love and cherish our charges a bad name in the scene and or the Vanilla world. So i feel it is a great need to have correct training for both Doms and subs and to have that training enhance what a Dom or even a sub knows. So as to better not only the relationship and any others that may come after but also to create a better public standing in not only the scene and with your peers but also in the world as a whole.

  2. I would like to read both. As I want to learn all I can to be the most perfect submissive possible. I think I can learn how to be a good sub by seeing both sides of the coin, so to speak.

    1. Hello Chrissy.
      Thank you for your comment. I take it you are new or new-ish in the lifestyle?Am I correct? In any case, there is no such thing as perfect submissive but only those who love to improve all the time. You have to understand, perfection can be found only within our faults.

      It is a real philosophical topic this regarding perfection and if it is possible to achieve it. According to Plato, perfection stands only as a memory from our life before we come to earth and what we do here is trying to get closer to that memory (in a very free translation). We can only strive to perfection but we will never make it. Actually that makes life more interesting and from a Dom point of view, it gives me the opportunity for some spanking sessions.

      To improve your self first you need to focus on your self. Understand who you are, why you are the one you are, the dynamics inside you that drives you towards submission, how you find pleasure by serving or giving pleasure. Maybe even break the bond with your ego. As I believe, in a real relationship (even a vanilla one) the true bond comes when both sides manage to stop thinking with their ego and see their existance as one.

  3. I don’t think its the most important subject. I would say that training gets so much attention because it reflects how there are so many with an interest in bdsm but little knowledge or confidence in themselves within that realm. Given that I think that being trained to be one or the other would get the most attention, but I would prefer it if it wasn’t. This is, this must be a personal journey and process in bdsm I have realized, so training in how to be either sub or dom should be limited. That said I think information in how to train and the mechanics of what is involved in the act would be great. So I vote, how to train a sub/slave as most important.

    1. I do not mean any disrespect, being that I am new to all of this, but I disagree.
      Isn’t a Master the one Who should guide a submissive?
      I believe that the training of a sub will be according to her/his Master’s requirement.
      But what would happen to the sub if the Master doesn’t know or doesn’t the proper training so to speak?
      I also believe that both Master and sub grow and learn together. Learning the other person and learning about them is what will make perfect for eachother.
      It’s not a degree, it’s different in every individual, everybody has its own rules when it comes to their persona.

    2. Hello John

      Yes, It is also my belief that training might not be the most important topic to discuss but on the other hand, if there are so many out there who seek information about it and are eager to learn, doesn’t that makes it the most important?

      Since we agree once again in the fact that our “training” is mostly a personal “journey” that takes place inside us, there is no way to advice on the ways of the so called training but only suggest how each and all of us can walk the path the journey is taking us to.

    3. Denisa

      You are not wrong, the part of the Dominating side is important but the personal “journey” the one we take on our own is more important.

      The Dom is there to guide, help the development of the sub but for me is a thin line between helping and determine. In a healthy relationship you don’t want the other to be just a mirror of your self, be made by you a reflection of your own desires.

      What a real Master in my way of thinking will do is help his submissive find her own self, develop her own desires and grow into something that both will be proud of it.

      Since we are making word about a submissive not a slave, we have to keep in mind she will always keep her own mind, beliefs and desires, she will never become an object without her own will. For the same reason, during the training, she will be in position to understand if the guidance she is receiving is wrong or not. If it is the one that match to her own needs. If it isn’t, then she can always leave and seek in some other Master (Dom is the proper word to use) the correct guidance.

      In general I do not believe in the definition of slave in modern years, I mostly believe in submissives who decide from time to time to act as slaves. For me a slave would be boring, one who obeys blindly and follows orders without question. After all, we all are humans, we all make mistakes and by definition a Master shouls be one who never takes a wrong decision. So yes, Master/slave is something that can be a temporary condition withing a Dom/sub relationship just to spice up things for some time (mostly sexually). In every day life, the only viable and long lasting relationship can be that of a Dom/sub.

      I bet you will find many that will argue my point of view but this is the BDSM world of Master P 😉

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