Many think or believe that Doms and subs exist only in our BDSM community but i do not agree at all with that. I would say that the whole world is divided in Dominant and submissive individuals though not all of them are part of our community. Observe your world for instance your working environment, try to anticipate those hidden or not that hidden behaviors that actually indicates the side each person stands. Strip them from titles, sex and/or age and look directly into their personality. You might get surprised by realising many facts you were missing out there.

Have you ever had a vanilla relationship? Those who had it should have noticed that actually even in such a relationship they tend to behave the same way they do in the lifestyle but in a more conventional way. Look at a friend of yours and how he or she acts within a relationship. If you observe the details at the end you will find out they are either dominants or submissives. In any relationship in this world at the end there are the decision makers, those who steer the wheel of life for both even if they like to believe they do it mutually. That is a big difference between vanilla and bdsm individuals. When vanilla’s tend to love the fairytale of equality.

We are not equal yet we have equal Wrights. Take a look at your hand, none of your fingers are equal yet all of them are treated equally by you. Got the picture? It is the law of nature some to lead and others to follow and anything else is only to satisfy a false ego.

Let us take another example. A vanilla couple during sex at some point one or another leads the scene, how the things will be done and how they will both reach satisfaction. It might be the male or the female because who leads has nothing to do with our sex but with our personality and only. In general society tends to accept that a female to submit is the natural yet i would dare say that many times when we dig deeper into behaviors will find out that the female dominates in a hidden way. Again i will say one. PERSONALITY is what makes one a Dominant or a submissive and nothing more.

Since we are born we are one or the other, since our childhood we can notice dominant or submissive behaviors. One kid will do everything told with great pleasure when others want the things be done on their own way and even if they finally have to follow orders they are not happy at all. There is a clear difference between different personalities.

In conclusion the world is divided in Dominants and submissives but not everyone is to be part of the BDSM world.

2 thoughts on “All humans are divided in Dominants and submissives but not all are part of the BDSM community

  1. It shocks – SHOCKS! – some of my fellow Doms when my sub and I are out, and when we’re done, I gesture to my sub, and she pays. Now, they don’t know that it’s with my card that she’s paying, and that it actually comes out of my pocket. They think I’m making her pay for the dinner / drinks / whatever, and that somehow I’m taking advantage of her . . . No. As a dom, that’s not my problem,. my slave takes care of the mundane issues. I order the food, I order the drinks. I entertain. She takes care of the details. that’s her job, and that’s her trust. I look at the tab, and I decide the tip. I sign the tab, and that’s all that matters,

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